Hiki: Autism ADHD & ND Dating

I was surprised to find an app for people on the spectrum would turn out the way it did. At first I was excited and it was pretty good until I started to notice allot of people talking down to people who were more developmentally challenged and made posts about it. Then I started noticing people chanting hate speech they didn’t understand and people were using when attacking and killing people in my area, so I started to flag these posts with no result so I ended up making a post about how these hate posts should be removed and how these posts relate to the attacks that where happening. My post was completely polite and non-aggressive, however it was met with extremist aggression and verbal attacks by some of the community, then my post was removed for what they said violating the terms of service. But angry hate posts are allowed? So I made another post asking if anyone else had this experience using the app, and my account was banned! And I sent a message asking why my account was banned and never received a reply… my only conclusion is this app is run by extremely immature people who support hate speech and believe it’s okey to verbally attack people who politely disagree with them. I’m a truly kind and caring person who believes being polite is the way to peace but this app is not a safe place for people who aren’t as tough skinned as me and I could see this app triggering self harm in people who suffer from Severe depression.

They over-moderate queer women, and under moderate misogynists. That being said I still recommend trying the app to see for yourself, it’s no where near as bad as a Meta or Google, product. The community is great if you press the block button fast on the creeps. Moderation is fast, and reactive, in a bad way. Think fast broad brushes, occasional over reaction from a lack of understanding or patience. A larger moderation team to remove pressure from each individual moderator, and a more diverse moderation team would help with reactivity and reduce rigid perspectives and bias. There may also be poor management of moderation above the moderation team. That‘s just a hunch though. All the individual moderators are wonderful. Every time I have seen moderation address issues publicly it has been flawless. It’s apparent to me there’s a lot of passion and care from the moderators. Hope my experience is uncommon and I hope you still choose to try it. I hope this feedback is useful for future improvement. This app has lots of bugs and flaws which I overlooked. I really wanted to like it. Unfortunately, I felt unseen, especially in regards to the non-verbal communication and context clues around moderation. I also felt a bit targeted. These are just my perceptions, but I think there’s some truth to them. May try it later and update my review given how few apps cater to autistic people, but for now I’m gonna spend my time elsewhere. Also the premium monthly subscription is insane, and price prohibitive. That 44$ price has got to go.

I haven’t had this for very long, but I’m really loving the community aspect already. As an autistic person, I’ve really struggled to date and make friends, and it’s awesome to have a space like this! (By “struggled”, I mean than I often get ditched or essentially bullied when I tell people I’m autistic.) Sadly, there’s not all that many people close to me, but that really has nothing to do with the app itself. There are a few things I dislike about the app itself so far. First, people I’ve already hit X on keep showing back up in the match section of the app. Like, near the top the next time I open the app. I wish that when I hit X, those profiles wouldn’t continue to show up. Second, I hate that I can’t specify any distance between 25 & 100 miles. That’s a huge difference, and I really would just like to be able to specify the distance mile by mile, not in set numbers with huge gaps. Third, I do wish the buttons didn’t disappear when I’m scrolling down on someone’s profile. It takes a good 5 seconds to pop back up, and I just wish they stayed there the whole time.