Plura: Meet Partners & Friends

This is a great app for events, workshops and community building for the consensual non monogamous community. The virtual forums lead to in person meetings, many run by app members. There are options for dating and friending! The developers constantly seek user feedback and improve the app. I am very thankful to Noa and Jeremy for this tool that allowed me to make a community of friends and partners.

The vast majority of events listed in my city are at one exclusive, ridiculously expensive club where I don’t feel comfortable going. If I wanted to know about their events I would just check their website. The few other events I found had vague descriptions and often indicated that there was a cover charge, but not what the charge is. Guess what? When you message the organizer, It’s super expensive. It’s billed as a place to meet people but I didn’t meet anyone, because like other apps, people will never see your “bud” requests unless they pay the monthly fee. The app shows you exactly five random people a day. Maybe once or twice a week there was someone I found attractive or interesting, but as stated above, no actual connections in my city. There’s no way to know if anyone has been on the site recently. I suspect I was seeing a lot of dead profiles. There are lots and lots of discussion threads where you can talk to people halfway across the country about whatever, but I could do that for free on Reddit. I regret paying for a month of this.

Of all the apps that cater to poly people this is the overall best one that I've experienced. The ease of use, the aesthetic, the suggestive material for different events is much appreciated. However, there sometimes seems to be a lack of connection with people. Per sign up the app suggests you should receive at least a few buds a day, however, I have gone sometimes several days without any. I'm not sure if this a lack of marketing or what, but it's a little disappointing. In addition, certain features like the ability to send voice messages or even video chat should be added as not everyone wants to send text all the time. However, some of us also may not want to give our phone number out so soon and so the ability to keep the conversation going with these features would be nice.