Intimately Us for Couples

My husband and I downloaded this app after we found the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast and have been enjoying both for months now. It’s wonderful to share something fun and intimate together. We’ve used many functions of the app, including the reminders, challenges, calendar (journaling about date nights and lovemaking together on it), the sexy bucket list, fantasies, flirty invites, and games, but the most impactful has been the LEARN section. We’ve been married 22 years and are learning things about anatomy, biology, emotional intimacy/connection and technique that we have never known before. I’ve recommended it to so many couples in our church that at this point I’ve lost count! The only change I suggested to the Intimately Us team was making the “challenge completion” private to the spouse completing it, similarly to the reminders section.

So I appreciate this app and the thought behind it. I’ve honestly used some of the daily challenges, but sadly most of the suggestions just don’t seem to be in sync with where “we are at” right now. Many of the “challenges” for the day just don’t line up with my wife’s primary love language… “acts of service”. Or some challenges don’t seem “age appropriate”. We are 59 and 60. I realize you can’t address every “love language”, because that is not how your app works right now. But maybe down the road instead of just asking your participants who use your app if they are male or female, maybe you could go a little deeper and add the filter of “what is her/his primary love language”. Obviously this means the person using this app would need to have the answer to that question first though. Perhaps it would be helpful to devise a way for a newcomer to figure out their significant other’s PLL first?? Then build their uniquely individualized version of this app around their answer?? Thanks for hearing me out! Don Basch

Overall, the app is well done. However, I wish there was more opportunity within the app to customize games, sections, pictures, and advice for those with triggers and boundaries from betrayal trauma, past sexual abuse, and past sexual addiction. While triggers such as these get more manageable over time as couples get to a healthy place, the triggers and boundaries never completely “go away.” So a clean marriage app that focuses on the mind, body, and soul — such as Intimately Us!! — that also incorporates customizable options for the emotional safety of the couple would be THE DREAM! Things such as an option to turn off specific prompts within the games for one spouse who may have trauma from those specific actions but leaving it on for the other spouse instead of having to turn the option off completely……an option for turning off the fantasy sections within the app for those with past sexual addictions that want to completely avoid any potential avenue back into addiction……an option to turn off the pictures within the app of other couples being playful because, even though they are not inappropriate images, it may be uncomfortable or potentially triggering for a couple who is using the app to specifically grow their own intimacy on a mind, body, and soul level to see all these other couples……an option to turn off prompts, references, or advice about “self-pleasuring” for those with past trauma or addictions……an option to turn off certain positions that are triggering to abuse survivors or former sexual addicts……etcetera. Like I said, the app is well done overall, but customizable options like these would make it emotionally safe for couples who have and are still working through hard things from their past.