OkCupid Dating: Date Singles

This app used to be the great back when they cared and help start relationships. Now it’s just a quick cash grab while preying on those looking for some companionship. For starters I never understood why they removed the “viewed you” tab. It was nice gesture to see who looked at your profile and let you know whose online at the moment. The recent changes I’ve noticed is they’ve now limited your swiping unless you pay a premium for unlimited swipes which for one month was initially $10 and is now $50 which is insane. You can’t see intros unless you pay it, so unless your ok with parting ways with that kinda money I don’t see why anyone would continue to use this app. Most of the women on here write in their profiles they can’t see likes and to just message them, which leads me to believe they are not paying so how can they see intros? They used to have tab where you could scroll and see potential matches based on how you’ve answered their questions. Now you can only swipe left or right so unless you like the person right then and there you risk losing them forever. There is even a tab for “New users” and “Popular users” that you must pay in order to see them, like they are for sale or something. Not trying to accuse them of taking advantage of users who have decided to try online dating cause of Covid. But it’s odd how almost every feature is hidden behind a pay wall.

Sometimes intros go through, sometimes they do not. A number of people I’ve connected with me and said they never saw the intro and they even knew exactly where to look for intros. I have had the same experience also. I have been an unpaid member, and then tried being a paid member. There are multiple levels of paid membership which can be confusing. I’m back to being an unpaid member because even as a paid member it’s not working all that well for me. My partner has posted pictures within writing prompts and they do not show up to anyone else, although they do appear in her profile when she looks at it. She has reported this to tech-support and they did nothing about it. I do greatly appreciate the fact that OKC supports non-monogamous dating. And the very detailed questions and answers. A lot of the questions are worded in such a way though that it is difficult to answer them because the questions are vague or potentially confusing like they could be interpreted in completely opposite ways sometimes. And more of them need an intermediate choice instead of just yes or no. Finally, a strange behavior I noticed when we started new profiles not long ago, without any indication of this, the app assumes a person would reject every answer that differs from yours. You have to go back through and review all your answers and the answers you would accept, in order to change this.

I have used many dating apps, none of them has turned into a marriage. I haven’t been back to this app in more than 4 years, but whenever people ask me where I met my husband, I was proud to recommend them OkCupid. I can’t imagine how people are dating now with Covid going on. But dating is a hard and brutal game. You gotta know yourself before anything else. I can't believe what a team we are and how we worked out, considering we were born in the opposite side of the globe, grew up in completely different culture and with 9 years of age difference. We had 91% compatibility on OkCupid. Our life goals align, but we are so different in many ways which make things interesting. We can talk to each other about anything, yet laughing at each other as some of the things we do are so “foreign” to each other, but then we realize that we indeed want the same thing, just have a different process. In today’s day and age, it’s so easy to get distracted. While we hold some principles tightly to our hearts, we also need to be patient and give people a chance to express themselves, and most importantly, listen and try to find that common ground. You never know who’ll surprise you and sweep you off your feet. Happy dating everyone. May we all find our soulmates.