coParenter - coParenting App

I signed up for this app solely for the “mediation” aspect. There was absolutely no mediation though. It was an open chat with my high conflict ex with no support or ground rules. Occasionally, the “mediator” would link articles from the internet about how to handle conflict. Then they would ask us if we had reached an agreement. At one point my ex said that they should be able to “call me out as they see fit and then walk away.” The mediator actually put this into their next agreement and acted shocked that i would not agree. Clearly, that session was not mediated. Much less monitored. On top of that, nothing in that “mediation” is court admissible. What this app has done is given my abuser a safe place to harass me once again. Without consequence. I signed up for this app because I thought I would receive help and support. Instead, it gave free license to my abuser to, once again, abuse me. When I contacted the app to report the issue I was told that they saw nothing wrong with the session. I pointed out the name calling, inflammatory language, and the fact that their mediator actually put some of it into an agreement. I was told that they “didn’t see those parts”. The person reviewing my session didn’t even read the whole thing!!! Unacceptable is putting it mildly.

My son’s father and I have had a lot of issues with efficiently communicating and meeting halfway on decisions. He surprised me by sending me the link to this app, after months of me trying to get him on board with being a team for our son. So far we have been able to come to agreements without arguing and I feel like eventually we will be able to coparent without the use of this app, although I like to be organized so I might continue to use it. The only issue I’ve had with a feature of the app is the mediator feature... it requires both parents to agree to talk along side with a coach. I have concerns with how discipline will be handle and want to come to a happy medium — let’s just say his methods are pretty “old school” and I fear a case eventually being opened... I feel like if one parents sees fit to talk through a situation with a coach to get to an agreement, then that’s all it should take... it can save a lot of disagreements and get the problem solved as soon as possible.

I have been using this app for 2 days and so far it has saved me thousands in attorneys fees, mediators, and therapy. The 3rd party was able to calm my ex down and have us come up w rules and boundaries that we both agreed to. Seriously, what took maybe a total of 2 hours solved a whole year of disagreements! I feel like my anxiety and depression were relieved over night! The worst part is that I wish this had been around years ago when I first got divorced. My life would probably be completely different, better late than never though!!! Only negative, and maybe I can’t figure it out, I wish there was a shared calendar that I could input things without a request being put in.